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토토사이트 Releasing themselves from any fear of failure.

I had been several years out of the military-and I’d

just been put through the mill. The Federal Agents

questioning me reviewed their notes, exchanged glances

with each other, and then turned towards me.

“You’re free to go,” said the Special Agent in Charge.

“That’ll do.”

I glanced at my watch, surprised to realize that over

two hours had gone by without my noticing. During

those hours, I had been grilled non-stop by all the top

supervisory agents in the District Office. I supposed the

reason was because I was up against a lot of strong

competitors. At any rate, I rose, nodded my thanks, and

headed for the door 먹튀검증커뮤니티.

Just before I reached it, the lead agent called me


“Oh, just one more thing,” he said. “I have one final

question, if you don’t mind?”

“Not without my lawyer,” I told him, with a straight


They all smiled; one chuckled. (Wow, I thought:

these people do have a sense of humor.)

“I‘ve noticed that you’ve had some valuable training

and experience as a sports mental trainer. I can’t help

wondering if you were using any of those mental

techniques that you teach athletes during the interview


I smiled and looked at him.

“Absolutely,” I told him. “Of course I used mental

techniques today.”

Later he told me how he noticed that the pressure

that the panel was so good at creating, and that they had

used so successfully to rattle other applicants, had

appeared to have had no effect on me at all . . . And so

began my career as a Special Agent.

Pressure. Intense pressure. I had known plenty of

it in the military. If there’s one thing that most athletes

will tell me they want their mental training programs to

help them with right away, it’s being able to perform

better under pressure.

Of course, feeling the pressure of competition is not

in itself a bad thing; it can actually help to bring out the

best in you. It’s really how you deal with it that makes

the difference. Whatever you may think, the truth is that

all the pressure you feel really comes from inside

yourself. Once you understand this, you can begin to

free yourself to do what you are really capable of.

So, how does stress and pressure adversely affect


Coordination, concentration, and judgment are all

affected. Your heart beats faster, your breathing speeds

up, you can’t think as clearly as usual. Often, pressure

creates tension that can push you to try and get through

something quicker. Yet when you yield to this impulse

to rush, you’ll actually perform worse.

Not knowing how to handle pressure will certainly

affect overall performance. This can be the undoing of

any performer whether in the boardroom, on the concert

stage, or while engaged in top-level sports. The first

thing you have to learn is how to stay cool. This is

probably the biggest single difference between a typical

competitor and a mental athlete.

The mental athlete has learned how to stay calm

and task-focused under pressure. He knows that staying

cool is part of his success formula. So he sets out to

manage the pressure-which begins by first recognizing

that it’s OK to feel the pressure. He doesn’t deny his

nerves, but he doesn’t give into them either.

Here are some of the tried-and-tested techniques

the mental athlete should learn to use in order to help

him to stay calm and task-focused under pressure:

Learn to concentrate and use focused breathing.

The athlete can bring himself back to the present

moment by training himself to use his breathing to help

secure control when the heat is on.

In pressure situations, make sure to let the air reach

into the very bottom of your lungs. Fill every corner of

your body with life-giving, life-enhancing oxygen.

Then, as you release the breath, release any tension

and anxiety along with it. Notice the feeling of release-

and the feeling of control. Focused breathing will help

reduce the pressure and keep you grounded in the


An athlete can also help take the pressure off by

using muscle relaxation skills. Having developed this

skill through practice outside the competitive

environment, the athlete equips himself with an

invaluable tactic to use against the building tension and

pressure that he may be feeling in a competitive

environment. The ability to instantly relax muscles not

only relieves tension, but also serves to calm your mind

and reduce the pressures you’re feeling. With a little

practice, you can get really good at triggering physical

relaxation quickly. Be sure to learn and practice the

relaxation induction technique introduced in Chapter 7,

which is extremely popular among the world’s top

athletes and performers.

Some athletes find that they deal best with

performance pressures by using coping affirmations.

The ability to talk yourself through a pressure situation

is an important skill. Coping affirmations are powerful

because they help you to deal with the pressure-not to

pretend that the pressure doesn’t exist. Many

champions create and have their own personal

affirmations. (I’m good, I’m fast, I’m strong, This is my

time, Believe, I dominate.) What they may be doesn’t

matter as long as they help you take the pressure off

yourself. Create three quick affirmations (positive

statements) you can fire off to yourself to complement

the breathing and relaxation techniques mentioned


Another method some athletes use to deal with

pressure is simply thinking about something that relaxes

them. Some do this while wearing headphones listening

to whatever it may be that helps them take the pressure

off themselves. One athlete may be sitting in her chair at

a crossover in a serious international tennis match, but

she’s actually no longer there. In her mind, she has

transported herself somewhere else, perhaps to a

tranquil mountain stream where she sits peacefully as

the sun reflects in the running water. How’s that for a

simple approach that can make a big difference? Be sure

to take the time to practice and develop this type of

mental focus.

Some champions admit to using a technique from

sports psychology where they allow themselves to let go

of the need to achieve any particular outcome. This is all

about feeling the pressure-and then warmly accepting

it. Such athletes approach performances with the

exhilaration of knowing that all their hard training is

about to pay off and that it’s time to go out and enjoy

performing their sport. They set out to compete with the

feeling that they have nothing to lose. Confident that

their years of solid training will take over, they let go of

any remaining worries and set out to perform with

uninhibited abandon. Some athletes talk about having

experienced their greatest moment in sports through

releasing themselves from any fear of failure.

In other words, not being focused on the outcome

allowed them to become enjoyably absorbed in the

process. One can sense this attitude at times when a

youthful challenger “takes on” a top seed. He (or she) is

almost carefree with the sense that they, at least, have

nothing to lose. Some spectacular upsets have happened

when a challenger has convinced himself to release the

weight of his own expectations in this way. Afterwards,

such athletes sometimes describe how they weren’t

worried about doing well, how they became completely

immersed in the activity of the moment. Their chances

of achieving the outcome that they desired increased

dramatically when they took the pressure off themselves

and let go of the need to achieve any specific outcome.

Other athletes have a ritual or pre-game routine

that they like to stick with and that helps them deal with

the pressure. If this is you (and it works) why mess with


And finally, one other approach is to recall a time

when you managed a pressurized situation really well.

Go back in your mind’s eye and take note of exactly what

you did right. What worked? What did you do? Were

you still for a while before going into the match? Were

you able to lose yourself in the moment? What was your

self-talk like? What was going on inside your head that

helped you reduce the pressure? Pinpoint it. Noticing

the things that helped you deal with pressure in the past

can make it possible for you to access those techniques

again. A competitor who is not feeling the pressure can

easily end up defeating one who actually plays better

than they do. Learning how to manage pressure can

help you outperform others. If there is anything that

worked for you and helped you with pressure in the past,

pinpoint it, and then keep using it.

Remember: Pressure is mental. Learn to

view performance pressure as a challenge that

can be managed by using mental techniques and

pre-game routines.


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